Self-Compassion, the Inner Critic, and the Highly Sensitive Person (HSP)
The inner critic is a close companion (welcomed or not) to many of us, especially those with high sensitivity.
A common experience of sensitive individuals is having our sensitivity judged or criticized by others, which we may internalize as, “something is wrong with me,” or “this part of me is not normal.” As 15-20% of the population, high sensitivity is a minority trait*. However, this does not mean we need to frame it as a negative trait. Reframing our beliefs about ourselves is a crucial part of moving toward self-acceptance and self-compassion.
First, consider what your inner critic tells you. Is it trying to protect you or help you in some way? It may need some reassurance from you that it’s attempt to help is appreciated, but it is not needed.
Then, you can move into practicing self-compassion to soothe and quiet the critical voice.
Self-compassion is made up of 3 parts: common humanity, self-kindness, and mindfulness**. By showing ourselves that we are not alone in our experience, speaking kindly to ourselves, and practicing being present where we are, we can learn to let go of the critical voice and embrace acceptance of ourselves.
Interested in learning more? Kristin Neff’s book or workbook may be great places to start!
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