What’s the Point of Group Therapy?
What comes to mind when you think of “group therapy”?
Let’s be real. The idea of group therapy can sound terrifying. You might imagine sitting in a circle with other people, being expected to share your deepest secrets, crying in front of other people, etc. While in-person groups do usually sit in a circle, you typically won’t be expected to jump right into your biggest secrets and fears on day one, if ever. Each group has its own set of group rules, which are usually clearly communicated prior to joining the group. Typically, there is some vulnerability expected in group therapy, but it is worked toward slowly and respectful.
The reality is that most people are nervous about starting group therapy; that feeling is completely normal. Going to group is a vulnerable thing to do and it takes courage to share your thoughts and feelings with a group of people.
Common fears about group therapy
“I can’t trust people, especially strangers.”
This is a common concern for those who are encouraged to try group therapy. Trusting people is hard enough… why should you trust a group of strangers? Group therapists are trained to facilitate the group process. We understand that it is scary to put yourself out there. You are not alone in feeling hesitant to the idea.
To be honest, many people coming to a therapy group have some sort past hurt or trauma around trusting others. It’s a common human experience that can be addressed in group therapy in a beautiful way.
“I don’t want people to know I need therapy.”
Although it is decreasing, there is still a stigma around mental health challenges, needing support, and asking for help. However, I’ve witnessed first-hand the relief that can come from allowing others to know you and see you, “flaws” and all.
“I don’t want to talk in front of a group of people.”
I get it. It’s intimidating to speak in front of a group of people, especially when you’re talking about yourself. This is something that most, if not all, group members fear at one point or another. Each group member has likely received criticism or judgment from others in the past, which contributes to this fear. Why would you want to be vulnerable if you could be hurt? Part of the therapist’s role is to encourage this vulnerability in a supportive space and to maintain a healthy group dynamic. Sharing about yourself in this kind of space can allow room for healing and growth.
“What if I know someone in the group?”
While this is highly unlikely to happen, group therapists are prepared to navigate these situations. Ask your potential group therapist about how they would handle this if you’re concerned about seeing a familiar face.
“How is group therapy helpful?”
Depending on the group topic and purpose, it can serve various functions. It is also typically a more affordable therapy option. Generally speaking, group therapy can help you…
decrease social anxiety
improve confidence
improve self-advocacy
increase a sense of community
decrease isolation
realize that you’re not alone in your experience
find your voice with others
learn from others who are in a similar situation
learn how to have healthy conflict
practice new skills in real time
so much more!
“Do I really need group therapy?”
At the end of the day, you have autonomy to decide if group feels right for you. A great way to explore this could be…
Think about your goals for therapy or what you’re looking for help with. If your goals are related to interacting with other people, group might be something to consider.
Contact a few therapists offering groups in your area. Most therapists will do a free 15-minute call with you to talk about the group. Ask about who would be a good fit for the group and share any concerns you have.
Consider the potential benefits for YOU if you try group. If those benefits are worth the risk, go for it! Take the leap and commit to working toward your goals in a group setting.
